The beauty of having moved to a new town and only having one friend, is that when I take my kids to soft play I am completely and utterly alone without the distraction of pleasant, refreshing conversation and may as well do more reading. Yay.
So I have cracked on with reading Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly. It’s taking me a while, not because I’m not enjoying it but because it’s not a story. You may have noticed that I like narratives. It’s part of being human I reckon.
Anyway, she writes about a cultural phenomenon called ‘scarcity’ that currently pervades western culture. It can be epitomised by the phrase:
It’s potent when you ponder your own scarcity perspective. Here are my ‘not enough’s’ throughout an average day…
I wake up at 4am, sandwiched between my two children.
–I’ve not enough room
–I’ve not had enough sleep
-I’ve not enough patience
-I’ve not enough energy to be creative with breakfast (weetabix it is)
-I’ve not enough time
-I’m not thin enough to wear that
-I’m not kind enough
-I’m not conscientious enough
-I’m not tidy enough
-I don’t pray enough
-I’m not confident enough
-I don’t like cooking enough
-I don’t have enough company
-I don’t have enough alone time
-I don’t have enough energy to make the most of my alone time
-I don’t have enough integrity (I ate ice cream)
Go to bed (already knowing I won’t have had enough sleep tomorrow because I’m going to bed too late).
I feel pretty melancholy after writing that! Man, I give myself and my life a bad rep. I’m my own joy-thief.
“The greatest casualties of a scarcity culture are our willingness to own our vulnerabilities and our ability to engage with the world from a place of worthiness.” p. 29
How do you gain a sense of worthiness? Well, whether you believe in a divine being that has put worthiness into your DNA simply because He created you, or not, it still requires an application of faith. You have to believe in something or hope for something that you cannot see.
Life doesn’t present us with a context in which we can easily look in the mirror and say to our reflection, “I am worthy”.
The problem with a scarcity culture is that our own shame wants us to bring others down to our level of unworthiness. We perpetuate unworthiness as easily as we spread the common cold.
Then we blame. When we can find our own sense of worthiness, we can more easily help others find theirs. Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we perpetuated worthiness?